Saturday, February 28, 2009

Saying it how it is

So earlier I was thinking about what really makes a relationship work. For example, when in a situation where a woman is having a bad day and she looks to her boyfriend or husband for support or just a simple, "I'm sorry to hear that dear," but receives nothing of the sort, is it okay for her to be upset? Of course it is! The man should of course been more sensitive. However I'm convinced that sensitive men are a myth much like the Lochness Monster or the Abominable Snowman. I've been witness to this insensitive man act one too many times. I once handled it in a manner where I calmly explained how the lack of caring hurt my feelings, however, I received a response saying, "you're expecting too much from this relationship." This relationship ended almost as quickly as it had begun.

This afternoon I witnessed a close friend take the same approach with her boyfriend of 5 years. I'm sure this is not the first time this incident has occurred, yet she received a similar response as I did. Why do men not learn? Lucky for her, they're still together and will probably be till the end of time. Perhaps its true that men are from mars and women are from venus. Quite obviously communication is key in any relationship. Like I said in my last post, love is not for the weak and communication can be quite difficult.

Showing someone you truly care about them takes three easy tasks in my mind: listening, prioritization, and involvement. First, listening is not hard to do, open your ears and your mind and pay at attention to small details. Second, prioritization means just making time for that person and not taking them for granted. Third, to be involved in a relationship means you should actually want to be in it and give as much as you receive. I know I personally love to give and give my time, my words, and small gifts while I'm in a relationship and I would never expect someone to give that much in return. However, a small bit of acknowledgment or reply to a note in return means the world to me and most women.

Words of Wisdom: Make it a habit to give - whether yourself, your time, a word of your encouragement, or a listening ear - and you’ll find peace and happiness that can’t be beat.

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